We all, at one point or another in our professional careers, have dealt with a boss, supervisor, or someone higher up in the organization who bullies their subordinates; in a small business, it is sometimes the owner who mistreats his partners and employees. Dealing with this personality type is challenging because they may outrank you in the organization or they have authority to terminate your employment.
Do you recognize some of these bullying behaviors?
- Blames others for errors.
- Makes unreasonable demands.
- Criticizes the work ability of others in front of others.
- Inconsistent enforcement of arbitrary rules.
- Threats of job loss, insults and put downs.
- Downplays or denies accomplishments.
- Social exclusion.
- Yells and screams at target, often in front of others.
- Takes credit for another person’s work.
- Women are targets of men 69% of the time.
- Women are targets of women eight to one times more often than men are.
There are a couple of things you can do to deal with this personality type. First understand that this behavior stems from a sense of inadequacy and low self-esteem. These people can only feel good about themselves by treating others with disrespect and belittling their accomplishments and achievements. If you have to deal with this personality type on a daily basis, don’t meet with them alone; always have another person present or only meet with them in a group. They tend to behave more professionally around others. Avoid confronting them. This bully likes to push your hot buttons so don’t react to their behavior. That will neutralize them. If you have to ask a question or need clarification, send them an email where they don’t have an opportunity to push you around. They rarely put things in writing that will incriminate themselves.
If you have the misfortune of directly reporting to such a person in an organization, or are having difficulty dealing with this personality in a professional capacity, please contact Hi-Point Coaching and we will help you.